The Golden Rule
Treat others as you would like to be treated. This timeless advice still has value today. When a child is taught to stop and think about how they feel when they are treated rudely, they are more likely to avoid treating others rudely.  In thinking of others, empathy is developed. I ask children in classes how they feel when their friend, who has come over to their house to play, leaves a big mess for them to clean-up. They passionately share how mad they are at their friend for helping to make the mess, but not willing to help clean it up. This example provides opportunity to remind them how important it is to always clean-up when they are the guest.

Once a child has mastered the golden rule, it is time to introduce the platinum rule - treat others as they would like to be treated.  Whereas, the golden rule works nicely when applied with those who come from a similar background or culture, the platinum rule requires a person think about the person they are with, the needs of that person, and what would be the best way to interact with them. Have you heard the adage ‘when in Rome do as the Romans do’? That applies here, for example, if your friend takes off his shoes when entering his home and that is not something you typically do, you would need to remove yours as well so that you would not offend him.

A Peaceful Home
A peaceful home is a happy home. Stressful, unhappy environments challenge civil behavior.  Times of stress can result in bad attitudes and create a combustible condition.  Have you ever tried to be polite and thoughtful when you were stressed or in a bad mood? It is nearly impossible. You may be able to utter polite words, but the tone of the message is abrasive and void of sincerity.

Keep uncivil behavior out of your home. Most people would not invite someone into their home that would personally treat them rude or create chaos within the family. Yet, many will choose music, movies, video games, and television programs that promote and celebrate unkind and uncivil behavior. Carefully consider who and what you bring into your home.